Internet Safety for Parents, A Summary
This Summary is the summation of a special series by intrepidNOW Lifestyle on Internet Safety. The series is targeted at parents that know that they must protect their children from the dangers of online access but are not quite sure how. We will interview the experts and share their prescriptive advice. We also installed and evaluated 3 top products for monitoring and managing internet use and provide our high level analysis on each.
Advice from the Experts
We sought out global experts on Internet use and security and asked them to provide advice that parents could use today to protect their children from the dangers present on the Internet.
- Click Here to listen to our interview with Scott Driscoll, Founder and President of Internet Safety Concepts
- Click Here to listen to our interview with Ciaran Bradley, CTO of Adaptive Mobile
- Click Here to listen to our interview with Tom Kersting, Author and Psychotherapist at Valley Family Counseling
- Click Here to listen to our interview with Glenda Snodgrass, President and Lead Consultant at The Net Effect.
- Click Here to access the Online Teen Safety Guide from StaySafe.Org. This is a great resource of a variety of very helpful materials! (added August 2018)
For convenience, here is a listing of all the good advice that these fantastic experts shared:
Scott Driscoll (paraphrased)
- Getting an iPhone is not an inalienable right, your kids should earn the right to use technology by demonstrating responsibility.
- Respect the minimum ages set by those that created the software/device/app. Use the “opportunity” to follow the rules as a lesson vs. teaching your kids that they don’t have to follow the rules.
- Know what your kids are doing on their devices.
- Have the same brand of technology as your kids.
- Learn about the parental controls for each type of device in use, they all have some.
- For Apple users, use the same iCloud account as your kids.
- Set your kids’ social media accounts to PRIVATE.
- Don’t share any more personal information in account profiles than is required. (No addresses, phone numbers, birth dates, etc.)
- Don’t let a screen or a microphone change who you are.
- Don’t let kids use devices when a parent is not in the room.
- Common Sense Media is a good site for parents to keep up with technology issues, challenges, advice, etc.
- One of the best resources to learn about what your kids are doing are you kids. Just ask them.
Ciaran Bradley (paraphrased – and I did not include repeats of Scott’s advice)
- At random times, sit down with your kids and review what they’ve been doing on their devices.
- Don’t give out demographic information to anyone that you don’t know in the physical world.
- Don’t “talk” to anyone that you’ve never met before
- If your kids have experienced anything uncomfortable, they must come and talk to you about it.
- SafeKids.com is a good site for parents to keep up with technology issues, challenges, advice, etc.
Tom Kersting (paraphrased – and I did not include repeats of Scott’s and Ciaran’s advice)
- The only way to develop strong emotional intelligence is by face to face interaction with other human beings. Individuals with strong emotional intelligence are far more successful in every aspect of life (emotionally, relationship-wise, physical health, earning potential).
- Parents must work very hard to help overcome the fact that kids are measuring their self worth by “likes” and “thumbs up”.
- Make your kids put their devices away during dinner and other family times.
- You must limit you kids’ screen time. The constant task-switching learned by kids on their (many times multiple) devices has actually “re-wired” their brain to use the multi-tasking part of their brain (visual cortex) for all tasks.
- The American Association of Pediatrics recommends that you kids spend no more than 2 hours per day in front of a screen.
Glenda Snodgrass (paraphrased)
- When you purchase any new electronic device, change the default administrator password.
- Use “standard accounts” on your computers or your devices vs. using the administrator account.
- Think in terms of pass-phrases instead of passwords. Use 12 characters at a minimum, 16 or more characters is better.
- Do not re-use the same password across different sites
- Do not check the “save my credit card information” box when you buy online.
- Do not use public wifi.
- Be aware that the bad guys get us to do the hard work for them by fooling us with phishing schemes.
I installed and configured the following 3 products and used each for 2 weeks:
Our environment is almost totally Apple. Our son has an iPad, and we have iPhones, iPads, and iMacs. In the cases of Qustodio and MMGuardian, I installed the “control” app on our son’s iPad and regularly monitored his activity via their web based monitoring software. In the case of Circle, I installed the Circle device in our family room and set it up to control ALL devices in our house. I monitored activity via the Circle app on my iPhone.
Qustodio (cust-o-dio) is installed on your child’s mobile device and is administrated via a portal on the web. The software allows you to set up “Rules” to restrict specific applications (Minecraft, Facebook, etc) but not all the popular applications (not Madden Mobile) that kids use. It allows you to set time usage limits both by time of day (i.e. not before 7am or after 8pm) and by time online per day (i.e. 2 hours). It provides real-time alerts when your child goes somewhere that they are not supposed to. Qustodio allows you to restrict or allow any website specifically. Qustodio monitors your child’s device no matter where they are. I did have to call Qustodio for support and that did not go well until I told them that I was a blogger and was writing a review of my analysis of their product. They then got me in touch with their engineering resources, but still could not help me get the monitoring of a specific app working.
Here is a good summary of how Qustodio works.
Pricing: Small Family Annual Subscription $49.99
My observations on Qustodio: I really liked Qustodio for monitoring of individual devices. It gives you the ability to restrict specific apps and sites. I can see why parents would be satisfied with Qustodio.
MMGuardian is installed on your child’s mobile device and is administrated via a portal on the web. It is peculiar in that it disables all browsers (Safari, Chrome, etc) and forces you to use the MMGuardian browser. This could cause issues with sites that your kids use for school that require specific plugins for certain browsers. The software allows you to set up “Rules” to restrict categories (i.e. social media, games,etc) but I was not able to set up rules for a specific application. It allows you to set time usage limits both by time of day (i.e. not before 7am or after 8pm) and by time online per day (i.e. 2 hours). MMGuardian monitors your child’s device no matter where they are and allows you to restrict or allow any website specifically.
The MMGuardian website does a good job of describing it’s benefits.
Pricing: Family Annual Subscription $69.99
My observations: After trying Qustodio first, I found MMGuardian more difficult to work with. I thought it was a real burden to have to use their browser. If I had no other choices, I would be happy to use MMGuardian, but I found Qustodio to be “tighter”, have much better alerting, and to be easier to manage.