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Monday 26 June 2017
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Move Away from Gossip

gossip“How rude.”

Every single day, we are exposed to rude people – those who think they are smarter or deserve more than the rest of the world. I cracked up at this stat of which I was I was recently reminded, 90% of all people think they are smarter than the average person. These people might be cab/uber drivers, family members, customers, pedestrians, employers, colleagues or any number of individuals we encounter on a daily basis. Some might think it is easy to counter rudeness with kindness; sadly, this does not always work.  We are often crazily pitched by the actions and reactions of others. And being the civilized people we are, it is difficult to know exactly how to respond without being rude ourselves.

My past…

I am haunted by my own past rude behavior. That behavior kept me downnot the person I was rude to or gossiped about, but me. What are some key differences between successful and unsuccessful people? A known attribute is that successful people talk about ideas, while unsuccessful people talk about other people.

Gossip is gossip – even if you are the one saying it.

It becomes a practice of patience to deal with others who often gossip to you or about you. It would be easy to tell them to STFU, but then, that would be rude. So, we need to learn to twist and turn to maneuver away from gossip and its dangerous path. One way? if you hear gossip – do not share it. It’s none of your business. If it’s about you? Then, go straight to the source –  I have, but you may have a hard time controlling your anger and then rudeness would prevail.

And then, so would gossip – potentially.

Let it be your fire

The bottom line is that if you are successful, if you are a change agent, if you like to take risks or try different options, if you are an innovator and a developer, people are going to talk about you. We could guess why – and it could be a number of reasons – usually it is just because they don’t know any better – they are ignorant.

Use this as your fireyour impetus – to keep succeeding, keep risking, keep innovating.  Not everyone can be that or do that.

We are fallible

We all have moments of failure. But, failure is where we grow, where we learn what we need to do differently in order to succeed.  Failure is often the option, as much as we would like to say “Failure is not an option” – it usually is.

We should learn from challenge and failure and then move forward with assuredness that we will rise above and that heavy challenges are only muscle builders for our next endeavor.

Dealing with Gossip

1. Walk Away. It is not worth your time and it’s none of your business what other people think of you. Imagine how freeing that statement really is.
2. Let Go of it. Hanging on to falsities, vagueness, and meanness has no purpose and no place in your future.
3. Learn From It. Maybe there was some truth – if so, the truth sometimes hurts. If not, now you know who your friends really are and how you do not want to be, act, or react to any given situation.

Grow

Many people will be rude and “uncivilized” for the rest of their lives and they will also be miserable. Know that happiness doesn’t dwell in a rude or black heart. This can be your out – and it’s not worth your time.

If this is a common practice for yourself, perhaps it’s time for some introspection. It’s ok to jump the tracks of your current path of behavior – it’s ok to be better than you are. There is always a better way.  Find it.

 

Rayanne Thorn
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Rayanne Thorn

VP - Marketing, Strategist, Writer, and Radio Host at Dovetail Software and intrepidHR Editor
Rayanne Thorn works in hiring, strategy, marketing, and business development with technology companies and has held several high-level positions in the HR and recruiting technology space. She is the VP of Marketing at Dovetail Software and has been responsible for employment branding, hiring, employee engagement, employee retention, branding, marketing, sales, and partnership strategies in the past with TalentBrowser, Technomedia, Evenbase, Jobsite.com, Broadbean Technology, and Select University Technologies, Inc. Earlier in her career, Thorn served as a business and search consultant, as well as an executive third-party and corporate recruiter. She has a Bachelor’s in Business – Organizational Development and Strategic Marketing from Vanguard University of Southern California.
Rayanne Thorn
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Rayanne Thorn works in hiring, strategy, marketing, and business development with technology companies and has held several high-level positions in the HR and recruiting technology space. She is the VP of Marketing at Dovetail Software and has been responsible for employment branding, hiring, employee engagement, employee retention, branding, marketing, sales, and partnership strategies in the past with TalentBrowser, Technomedia, Evenbase, Jobsite.com, Broadbean Technology, and Select University Technologies, Inc. Earlier in her career, Thorn served as a business and search consultant, as well as an executive third-party and corporate recruiter. She has a Bachelor’s in Business – Organizational Development and Strategic Marketing from Vanguard University of Southern California.


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